Friday Night Fights: Abortion, the Supreme Court's Decision, and Personal Responsibility
Good afternoon and welcome to another entry to Friday Night Fights.
Friday Night Fights is where I make a blog post about some kind of conflict that bothers me in some way, shape or form. This Friday, I'm going to write about a very sensitive topic to most, and share my thoughts and feelings on the matter as a Father, a Male, and a Human. This topic is Abortion in the United States.
Now before you bounce off my blog and attempt to cancel-culture / blacklist my ass for all eternity, here me out. I have no problem in this for multiple reasons, as described below.
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First, I don't know ALL of the nitty, gritty, super-finite, detailed points about the legal aspects of the Supreme Court overturning Roe v. Wade. What I understand is that the SHIFT OF AUTHORITY has moved from the FEDERAL level to the STATE level. It isn't 100% canceled altogether, the SHIFT OF AUTHORITY has changed.
OHMYGAWDITSTHEENDOFTHEWORLDWEREALLGOINGTODIETHEGOVERNMENTHASABANDONEDUSANDLEFTUSTOTHEWOLVES.
Okay, first and foremost, there is a LOT of social dynamics that have happened just in my kid's lifetime (13 years) that have shifted that feed this hysteria and do not sit well with me. The first is education about how America ACTUALLY works. Secondly is this co-dependence people have developed for the Federal Government. I hope my opinions, thoughts, and a very personal story can change your perspective in some manner.
In my opinion, on the subject of Politics (not physical location or citizenship), when someone says "America" they are referring to the Federal government, which is supposed to function like a giant oversight committee to the 50 states. When someone says the "US" or "United States" to me they are referring to the collective society of 50 sections of area that agreed to work together to form a society. Thus the shift to the State's decision is where my brain is going with this.
Going back to Abortion, with the shift of authority from the Federal to the State level, long and short, it's just like one of your parents saying "i'm not dealing with you, go to your room and wait for your ____ to get home. ___ will deal with you." To put it in a school environment, the principal delegating authority to the teachers instead of "sending the kids to the office." The AUTHORITY to say "yes" or "no" has shifted back to the STATE level of government.
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On to my main reasons why I both I agree with the Supreme Court decision and both agree and disagree with the aspects of abortion.
First reason is because we all choose to live where we live. The term "I Can't" followed by whatever else is a mindset that has been programmed into over 90% of all people in the US in my life, my parents' life, and my grandparents' lives. "I can't move because ______." IT'S AN EXCUSE BECAUSE OF YOUR OWN FAILURES PURE AND SIMPLE. You choose to live where you live, whatever those choices may be and you have no one to blame but yourselves.
If you don't like where you live, MOVE!
Jeff Dunham did the joke about hurricanes, and the heat, and such with his puppet Walter. "bUT We lOvE It hErE!!!"
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Second reason fall into our rights and responsibilities as citizens of the United States, and the SELECTIVE PROCRASTINATION associated with one aspect - voting. In our modern society, everything can be learned via the internet. It is your choice whether or not to research a candidate before voting for him or her, and it is your SELECTIVE PROCRASTINATION that stops you from doing such research. It is also, as outlined by the Rights and Responsibilities of a Citizen of the US to vote in elections (among other things). Whether or not you vote, don't vote, vote for the wrong person or the right person directly reflects the society you live in.
Reference: https://www.usimmigration.org/faq/what-are-the-rights-and-responsibilities-of-u-s-citizenship
Sure, there are greedy politicians that exist. They've existed since the dawn of human civilization, recorded way back as far as Ancient Egypt and beyond. Their goal is to "stay in power as long as they can" and damn you peasant for saying otherwise. They will attempt to manipulate the masses to stay in power, whether through persuasion, intimidation, idiocy, lunacy, tyranny, or otherwise. They represent the people, but believe the are "in charge" until called out on their b.s., and then the responsibility is shifted.
History is written by the Victors of any conflict, but the truth is still recorded somewhere.
This is why I specifically call the phrase SELECTIVE PROCRASTINATION. If you as a citizen don't have the personal integrity and responsibility to do your research, then you live with the consequences of who is delegating at the city, state, and federal level on your behalf. It's also a "majority rules" way of voting, so talk with your friends about it.
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This brings me to my final reason, how this all circles back to Abortion, and my personal opinions on the matter. PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY AND INTEGRITY.
Taking "the easy way out" in any particular circumstance is, has, and always will be wrong in my mind. I keep hearing "My Body My Choice" as the mantra, and yet there is a LOT of stigma that a Man "should serve a woman and treat her like a Queen and to hell with what he wants." So you ladies CHOOSE to have sex and get pregnant, however abortion gives you "the easy way out" of your personal responsibility and integrity, all while subjugating a man simply because of his gender.
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Mr. Jon story time that is a painful point. In my life I have had four truly meaningful relationships, where I would move the heavens and earth for this person, and I did in some way shape or form. To hell with my feelings, emotions, goals or ambitions. Each of these women I formed a solid bond with over the course of several years.
With the exception of my current wife of 15+ years, each of the other three women treated me like worse than trash the moment they were pregnant. The second woman wasn't even my kid either as she was cheating on me behind my back and still treated me like trash. As fate would have it, either via "self-inflicted miscarriage" (which I didn't even know was a thing until it was explained to me) or abortion at a clinic, a life was snuffed out before it had a chance.
The reasonings behind such actions ranged from "I can't take care of this kid on my own" (wtf am I chopped liver?) to "how dare you do this to me" and even my high-school sweetheart whom I had to hear it from her mom said "I'm ashamed to have his kid" (despite being with me for over 4 years).
Is there something wrong with me? What the hell did I do to you? Wait, I fell in love with you, provided for you, showed you that I'm not gonna beat your or cheat on you or dominate you and ruin your life? I supported these women in going through school, building careers, and growing as people, only for them to destroy my identity as a Man and a Father the moment they are pregnant?
I was destroyed for a very long time by how these women treated me and I didn't trust women for a long time at any personal level. I eventually healed, learned, adjusted my mentality, and met my wife of 15+ years whom we have three children and are trying for a fourth.
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With the story over, I have a very HARD LINE in the sand when it comes to abortion, and I'm a firm believer that it is, and should be, a medical procedure that should be practiced. The SCIENCE behind abortion is sound. It is the SOCIAL AND POLITICAL ASPECTS of abortion that torment my mind. Politicians and far-left and far-right minded people have weaponized a medical procedure.
What if it was limb replacement instead of terminating a fetus in a womb? Would the regenerative treatment be such widely argued and or weaponized? No. I believe it will be capitalized and made very expensive, but it won't be something the masses protest and go to street wars over.
So my hard line in the sand falls on TRUE CONSENT, not some fake victim bullshit. Let me explain.
If you sleep with a man, but then regret your decision afterwards and claim "he raped me" and muckrake the man because YOU made a bad decision, that is you victimizing yourself, putting an entire gender below your own ego, and not accepting your own INTEGRITY. Then you are pregnant by him and choose to abort the baby, so by all means you are violating your own PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY and INTEGRITY in my opinion. Grow up and make better choices.
As in the article link below, if you have been groomed by someone to have sex with them, or raped, sexually attacked, etc. and become pregnant, then yes I totally support abortion, so long as the decision is made as soon as the discovery is made. We circle back around to SELECTIVE PROCRASTINATION, PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY, AND INTEGRITY. If you get raped, but wait until the second trimester to abort, I have no sympathy for you. You are in the wrong. I would ask "why didn't you get aborted the moment you learned? what changed? was there a medical reasoning behind going to the second or third trimester?"
In the article, the little girl got raped, and the doctor saw it as a legitimate medical threat to the child, so laws be damned she did it. The little girl is 10 years old.
Final reason is life as a whole. Despite 12 years in the Army turning enemies to red mist with Artillery, I am not a big fan of death. I travel the PTSD path on the regular and an tempted by Death on the regular, thus why I value life in most aspects. That said it comes down to the MEDICAL DECISION between mother and child as far as whether or not to abort. Would this pregnancy kill the mother? If the pregnancy goes on will both die? Oh no the Mom has suffered a medical condition - do we need to C-section the baby or abort the baby for the life of the mother and/or the baby? That's a hard mental struggle to make.
If my wife got pregnant, but the life expectancy would be zero for either because of the pregnancy, you bet I'm all about aborting the fetus, and I would make that decision the moment the results came back. I would not wait for second trimester or "hope for the best."
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I finally reach the conclusion of my FNF article with this summarized opinion. Abortion should be handled like a true medical procedure that should have the same weighted risk values as any other major medical conditions. It is VERY SITUATIONAL and I believe medical science should determine that decision.
Things that should not determine that situation are "MY BODY MY CHOICE" mentality or who is "in charge" at any level of government. Both men and women need to start taking some PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for their own actions, having some INTEGRITY with the outcomes, and not taking "the easy way out."
The Supreme Court saw through whatever smoke-and-mirrors that played out during the two cases involved with abortion and in our current political climate, and so the highest law in the land made a decision to kick the authority back to the states. Even I think this is wrong and it should be between a woman, her partner, the medical conditions she faces, and a scientific medical decision should be made.
Thank you for reading this week's post of FRIDAY NIGHT FIGHTS.
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